What Should Be Offered To Women Seeking An Abortion?

As Texas drafts and signs some of the most stringent anti-abortion bills into law, many of us wonder what comes next? The first bill signed by Governor Abbott in Texas makes it illegal for women in Texas to get mail-order pills for chemical abortions. There are many reasons to cheer that on besides saving the life of an unborn child. For one, many women do not understand what is happening to their bodies when they take medications that specifically induce abortion

Data is showing that more than half of all abortions are being done chemically. This means, exponentially more women are being sent home from their doctor’s offices and Planned Parenthood with a bag of pills to take, assured that this may cause discomfort but not to be alarmed. Most women who have endured a chemical abortion will tell you, this is not a simple bad period episode. The horrors they recount cannot be overlooked. And that is if you had no complications. 

What should we offer these women who are seeking an abortion in this manner? Is there a way to reach them with the truth before it’s too late? What are they looking for that would make the difference, and how can pregnancy resource centers better position themselves to help women interested in obtaining the pills necessary for a chemical abortion?

What Are Women Seeking An Abortion Looking For? 

Any woman who has gone through a pregnancy she didn’t intend to have, whether she aborted or not, can tell you the first thing they experience is fear. Unplanned pregnancies are what they sound like. This was not part of the plan. No matter what her plans were, at that time, they didn’t include motherhood. We have to start there. Trying to convince a woman who is afraid she will undo what her plans for her life are is going to have a hard time hearing, “Don’t kill your baby.” What she is afraid of is, “I just killed my future.” If you want someone to focus on choosing her life over someone else’s, you have an impossible mountain to climb. 

Women seeking an abortion don’t need to know they are carrying a baby. They know that. What they need is to find a way to stop being afraid of this unscheduled change in life. What are the reasons she doesn’t have to fear?

Secondly, a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy needs to be listened to and validated in her feelings. No matter how anyone feels about what she says she has to be afraid of whether you believe her or not, those fears are real to her, and they have to be acknowledged. 

Lastly, they need to know someone has their best interests in mind. She needs to know that someone is in her corner. Once she knows that you heard her and you have validated how she feels, now it is time to ask her to trust you with the solution to the problem. This is where it gets sticky. Planned Parenthood proposes an instant way out of her problem, or at least that is what they are selling. That is pretty compelling. She is thinking, “I can just undo this and move on with my life as planned?” A pregnancy resource center proposes you can move on with your life, but what that looks like is changing. You can see where the friction lies when you look at it from her point of view. It is just what an abortion offers her is anything but instant relief from her stress. Unfortunately, no matter what she decides to do, none of the options are instant relief for stress-free. All bring their challenges all are permanent. 

What Can A PRC Offer To Make A Difference 

It might seem that offering tangible goods and resources to a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy would be enough. You would be wrong. Not all women choose abortion for financial reasons, so offering financial help and things for the baby is the right response all the time. For the pregnancy center worker who is listening to her client, it is best to offer the things she says challenge her ability to choose to parent.

We can make a big difference in helping women seeking an abortion if we do that one thing she needs us to do; open our ears and our hearts to her

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